Does Being Loved Mean Being Made Much of?

"For many people, this is not obviously an act of love. They do
not feel loved when they are told that God created them for his
glory. They feel used. This is understandable given the way love
has been almost completely distorted in our world. For most people,
to be loved is to be made much of. Almost everything in our
Western culture serves this distortion of love. We are taught in a
thousand ways that love means increasing someone’s self-esteem.
Love is helping someone feel good about themselves. Love is giving
someone a mirror and helping him like what he sees.

This is not what the Bible means by the love of God. Love is
doing what is best for someone. But making self the object of our
highest affections is not best for us. It is, in fact, a lethal distraction.
We were made to see and savor God—and savoring him, to
be supremely satisfied, and thus spread in all the world the worth
of his presence. Not to show people the all-satisfying God is not
to love them. To make them feel good about themselves when
they were made to feel good about seeing God is like taking
someone to the Alps and locking them in a room full of mirrors."

-John Piper in Don't Waste Your Life